The complexities of online dating go far beyond the actual dating process. For one thing, you have to promote yourself, and that’s not always easy. Also, you need to be able to write well and express yourself effectively (strike 2!). To complicate matters even more, you must contend with the fact that most prospective dates will make a decision about you within mere seconds of glancing at your profile and photo.
Yes, online dating success is all in the prep work, so don’t assume that you can just snap a couple of selfies, upload them to Match and call it a day.
Know How to Use Your Tools
Online dating is a lot like walking into a gym. Yeah, you can try to figure out the equipment on your own, and you may eventually achieve some results if you don’t break your neck on the rowing machine, but you’re not going to get the most out of your workout unless you actually take the time to learn how to make the equipment work for you. It’s the same with online dating.
People get burned out because they are not using the proper tools in the most effective ways. Let’s take a look at some of the most important tools in your online dating arsenal.
Create the Right Username
Your username is the first thing that people use to identify you, aside from your jaw-dropping good looks, so make sure that it’s appropriate, pronounceable, and memorable. You wouldn’t want to go with a username like “Khydox54312” because it’s obscure, it’s difficult to remember, and it doesn’t really say anything about you.
Select a username that reflects your personality a bit. Names like “HikingGoddess” and “Travel4Life” are descriptive, succinct, and indicative of the user’s interests.
Make Sure Your Picture Game Is Strong
In a previous article, I discussed the finer points of choosing the perfect profile photos. Assembling an irresistible photo gallery, however, involves more than just finding your best likenesses and banishing your bathroom selfies to the depths of the Earth. There are other important considerations as well.
For instance, make sure to only include three to four pictures. If you only submit one or two, it looks like you may be hiding something; if you submit too many, you eliminate that all-important sense of mystery that makes a budding romance so exhilarating.
Also, don’t caption the photos. Let the images speak for themselves. A unique photo with no explanation can serve as a fantastic ice breaker and give potential matches a reason to contact you. “Hey, I saw you holding a penguin. How did THAT happen?!”
Have a Short, Sweet, and Descriptive “About Me” Section
“I was born on a snowy evening in February. As I lay wrapped in the loving embrace of the fatigued but joyous woman whom I would soon call ‘Mommy,’ I possessed no knowledge of the long and harrowing journey that awaited me. My initial months upon this Earth were fraught with…” No! Just stop! As previously emphasized, you only have a few seconds to make a good impression. Nobody wants to hear your entire life story.
Keep it engaging and concise, and focus on the most interesting details about yourself. It’s better to write about one or two qualities or experiences in detail than to provide a laundry list of mundane facts about yourself. For example, if you love to travel, you might write about one or two of your most exciting or life-changing travel experiences.
Also (and I can’t stress this enough), don’t write about what you’re looking for in a partner. Think of it like a job interview: You don’t tell the employer what you’re looking to get out of the job; you demonstrate to the employer why they would be foolish not to hire you. What value do you bring to the table?
Fill Out All of the Fields
When perusing an online dating website, there are few things more off-putting than clicking on a user’s profile and finding a message like, “Sup. You want to know about me, just email me.” Way to sell yourself, champion! Sure, most people won’t read your entire narrative, but by making the effort to complete it, you demonstrate that you are committed to this endeavor and are more likely to see things through. And that’s sexy.
So now that you have a better understanding of the dos and don’ts of profile building, get out there and make your online dating profile the envy of Cyberspace!