Just as all fun times must eventually come to an end, I’m sad to say my time blogging about my dating experiences has come to a close. I hope you all had as much fun reading about my misadventures, advice, and various weird messages as I had experiencing them first-hand. Well, it wasn’t always fun per se, but it was always interesting.
The truth is, I’m exhausted. If you want to be serious about online dating, you need to go all in and devote time to searching for matches, sending and receiving emails, and actually going on dates. And don’t forget I signed up for two sites, Match, and Zoosk! That’s double the interactions. The odds of meeting someone great were in my favor, but it was also a huge time commitment and at the moment I just can’t go in at 100%. I need to take a some time not dating and just focus on work and exercise and get back to all those hobbies I talked about in my profile but never had any time to enjoy because I was really busy going to wine bars on first dates.
Unfortunately I didn’t end up “meeting someone,” but I did meet a lot of cool guys, go to new places in New York, and learned a ton in the process. Some of that knowledge I’ve been sharing with you throughout my blogging posts, and some I’ve saved till now. Here are my top five pieces of advice:
Kate’s Top 5 Dating Tips
- Never write “I promise to lie about where we met” on your profile. Everyone is online and dating around, so own the fact that you are also. Why should someone want to date you if you’re embarrassed about this most basic fact? It also implies that your partner should be ashamed about online dating as well, which is absurd.
- Go somewhere other than a bar for your first date. It doesn’t have to be somewhere fancy, just somewhere you can hear each other over the din of the outside world. Everyonegoes to a bar, so if you can distinguish yourself at the get-go you’re already ahead of the pack. I have a bunch of fun ideas within New York on the other side of this site, which are easily adaptable to most any other city in America. Check them out!
- Stick to one or two sites max. I was on three sites, and frankly it was a little too much to keep up with at times and I felt burned out quickly. Being on more than one site does have the benefit of increasing your dating pool exponentially, but I think it’s best to focus on the quality of your profile and online interactions rather than the quantity of potential matches.
- Break out of traditional gender roles. If you’re a girl, don’t be afraid to send out the first message. Waiting around for a guy you think is interesting is the least proactive thing you can do. And guys, don’t be weirded out by a girl who gets in contact. Be impressed that she’s chosen you out of the thousands of dudes on the site because she is attracted to your face and/or hobbies.
- Have fun. I know that’s what everyone says, but at the end of the day if you aren’t having fun with dating, why are you doing it at all? This is your life, and if you are not enjoying what you are doing, it’s time to try it in a different way.
As I’ve mentioned before, dating in New York City is tough. It’s a big city with a ton of single people just looking for a way to make a connection. Online dating is a shortcut to making that happen.
Thanks for reading!